I feel that 2020 may be all my fault. One year ago today I wrote this blog about how 2019 had gotten away from me and how my wish was to spend more time at home in 2020. Boy, did that wish come true. After a couple of mini adventures in January, February and March, everything screeched to a rather dramatic halt. I dug out my old work handbag the other day and found my final train ticket in there, dated 12th March 2020 - for someone who used to rack up intergalactic mileage on the trains every year, this has been quite a change of pace.
The mini adventures
|Cliff walk near Bray (Dublin)|
|Sculpture Trail - Clitheroe|
- Focus on "can" not "can't" - I keep banging on about this, but it is absolutely at the heart of everything we do. There have been an enormous amount of "can'ts" in 2020, but there have been plenty of "cans" too.
- Ask for help. Honestly we would not be here if it weren't for each other and the support of family and friends. In April, May and June we had absolutely nothing and I was utterly humbled by the way our friends stepped up to offer help and support, They even sent gin!
- Learn new things. We have learned countless new tech platforms this year as we completely reinvented our business. There were some very long weekends, lots of tears of frustration and several entertaining mishaps - like the time I pressed the wrong button and kicked every single delegate out of a training session mid way through. Ooops! We survived though!
- Set firm boundaries between home and work - if you work from home, that's not always easy, but try changing clothes at the end of the day, going for a 'fake commute walk' before you start and after you finish, hide your work stuff away when you're not using it, and avoid saying "Just this one more email" - it will still be there when you log on tomorrow.
- Be nice to yourself - we have all had a crap year and we're all feeling pretty fraught just now, so ease up and quit beating yourself up for not living up to your impossibly high standards. I've always hated the expression 'guilty pleasure' - just take time out to indulge in what you love, whether that's The Times crossword or bingewatching the every episode of Friends.
- Accept change. This is a toughie, but things won't magically 'go back to normal' - we've all been changed by this. One of my favourite quotes on change comes from the "Way of the Peaceful Warrior" by Dan Millman: "The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new."