Sunday, 28 April 2019

Why DIY is better than fell walking

Are you sitting comfortably?  Do you have a nice cup of tea and a chocolate biscuit?  Good, because I'm about to let you into a secret.  DIY is in NO WAY better than walking the fells.  DIY is a hateful waste of time and I'm only embroiled in it because I can't afford to shell out for painters and decorators.  Of course I'm blaming all of you for this because if more people bought our books then I wouldn't currently be sitting at the laptop, swathed in the aroma of Deep Heat and trying to explain a 4 foot painted daisy to Steve.  (😉) but, I'm getting ahead of myself...

The last time I was up a fell was on 31st March when I joined the fabulous Debs & Andy from Access TOG for a romp up Blencathra to see the new summit stone unveiled. Since then work, a nasty cold and even nastier home improvements have kept me away from the green stuff.  Don't get me wrong, our builders are wonderful but don't be fooled by all those grinning lunatics on Homes Under the Hammer of Grand Designs - DIY is the work of Satan himself!

Those of you who have followed this blog from the start will recall that back in March 2011, when we eventually moved out of the camper van and into a real home, we knew we had some DIY work ahead of us.  At that point I didn't realise how far ahead it would be nor how much of it there was!  In a nutshell we moved into a bungalow with, what they call up here, an "undercroft", which is basically a full height downstairs (affectionately nicknamed "the dungeon") which we always planned to expand into.  It looked like this.

The builders arrived in late January and it's been undergoing a transformation.  I was all for making a feature of the cement mixer but Steve said no...

We were *incredibly* excited when the stairs went in!

Of course what they don't show you on these TV shows is what a complete pain in the backside it all is.  Yes, I know "it will look lovely when it's finished" but I want it finished within the hour.  You know, like it is on the telly...  Instead we've had days with the utilities switched off and, at one point last week, we were without gas, electric and water all at the same time.  And my desk was here...

And then there's all the stuff I don't understand.  Skirting boards?  Why?  "So they finish the wall off nicely" is the best anyone can tell me so far.  Hateful little strips of wood that gather dust is my view. 

Then "what sort of light switches do you want?" Ones that turn the lights on and off, so long as they do that, I'm happy.  The decisions are endless - what sort of doors, what taps, where should the plugs go, and "do you have any more bourbon creams?"

I'll be honest, we have zero idea about decorating and DIY but our good friends Sarah and Stewart (from Crumble Cottages) have been on hand to advise us, though I am sure our attempts fall woefully short of their levels of attention to detail.

Still, it's coming along nicely, if very, very slowly. And don't peer too closely at anything.  (Also Steve may have been right, the table is definitely more practical than the cement mixer!)

As well as being inept at DIY I am also incredibly messy and have the patience of an over-tired toddler.  Having thrown paint around the walls, floors and me Steve suggested I hone my painting craft in the cupboard under the stairs (Why does that even need painting?  So the hoover can admire my fine brushwork on long lonely nights?  Honestly the only reason I have agreed to paint it is in case anyone ever peers in there and we become known as "those people who didn't paint under the stairs.") 

Anyway,  Steve banished me to my little cell with the famous words "There's not much mischief you can get into in there."  I beg to differ.

It will keep the hoover company and I'm sure Steve will learn to love it eventually.


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Monday, 1 April 2019

Corpse Wanted - Apply Within

Fairy Steps Corpse Route
We have an exciting opportunity for you to help us with a future book project.  Later this year me and Steve will be teaming up with the wonderful Debbie and Andy from Access the Outdoor Guide to walk all of the corpse roads in Cumbria and, in order to fully recreate the experience of our ancestors, we plan to take a corpse with us.  Not a real one of course because a) there are bound to be rules about things like that and b) it would get a bit whiffy after the first few days (although it might make a pleasant change from Andy's feet...)

Old Corpse Road near Haweswater
As you probably already know our wonderful county is criss-crossed with these ancient routes which were created by our ancestors when a lack of consecrated ground meant they had to ferry their dead up and over the fells to the nearest church.  Although there were often nice, flat, routes available they generally preferred to strap their dearly departed to the back of a pony, head up the steepest track possible and across the most godforsaken fells they could find - probably to atone for some sin or other. 

As we sadly don't have a pony we will, instead, be making use of Debbie's amazing Terrain Hopper but we haven't yet decided whether we'll need to strap you sideways across the front (as our ancestors would have done) or take the easy option and tie you to the back and tow you along.

Obviously we have a full job description for this role and suggest you have a good read through before deciding if it's suitable for you or not.

Job Description

  • You will be required to lie completely still at all times.
  • That's pretty much it.
  • Oh - and no groaning or moaning if we go over any bumpy bits or accidentally drop you.
Key Skills
  • Able to lie completely still (Essential)
  • Able to hold your breath for extended periods of time (Highly Desirable)
  • Able to hold your bladder for an extended period (or supply your own Tena pads)
  • Flexible (Not completely sure yet how we'll attach you to the Terrain Hopper, but it's likely to require bending.)
  • No fear of confined spaces (I'm not saying we *will* bury you, but we may give it a go for the sake of authenticity.)

In exchange for your time we are prepared to offer you a minor credit in the book and, if we can stretch to it, the odd sandwich when we stop for lunch.

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Monday, 25 March 2019

The Lost Book of Adventure

This is a book review with a difference; instead of analysing it and giving you a blow by blow account of what to expect from it, I'm going to show you how much fun we had with it and let you make up your own minds.

The book in question is "The Lost Book of Adventure".  It's written by an "Unknown Adventurer", edited by Teddy Keen, published by Quarto Publishing and is absolutely perfect for adventurers of all ages.

The notes were discovered buried deep in the Amazon jungle and they provide all the guidance you need for living a life of adventure.  Things like...

How to make an emergency sling for an injured arm using your fleece:

I'm preparing my Oscars acceptance speech.

 The best position to adopt if you need an outdoors poo:

(They perhaps had something a little less public in mind!)

How to make a rucksack from a pair of trousers:

How to make an emergency toothbrush from a nearby twig:

As well as being choc-full of brilliant ideas and advice the book is superbly illustrated and is a joy to hold and flick through.  (I am a book nerd and I squealed with excitement when I first saw it.)  When we were out taking the photos for this blog we got chatting to a couple who, quite rightly, wondered what the hell we were doing and they went away with the title noted down so they could buy it for their grandkids. It's that sort of book - it just delights you from the moment you first see it.

I also think it's incredibly well priced at £20 and has the look and feel of a much more expensive book.  You can find more information about it here - and make sure you're following me on social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) over the next week or so as I'll be giving one away in a competition.  Happy adventuring!

Friday, 22 March 2019

50 at 50

A couple of years ago I celebrated a "significant birthday" though, frankly, every birthday is significant - life is tough and every additional twelve months completed with your sanity in tact (even if only just) is worth celebrating.  Lots of my friends have been hitting the same milestone too and it's interesting how it affects some more than others.  I worry that perhaps I haven't been introspective enough, or used it as an opportunity to re-evaluate my life choices and what I plan to do with the time I have left.  So, I had a good long think and came up with this list - 50 things about turning 50, some of them philosophical, others less so.  Feel free to add more of your own.
View from my 50th birthday hideaway

1.  You are still alive.  This is an awesome feat.  By 50 you realise that some of your friends haven't made it this far so be glad you have.  That puts the rest of the list into perspective.
2.  You become more aware of the people around you who love you.  Because you will have loved and lost, and lost loved ones, this matters more as you get older.
3.  Things are not worse now than they were when we were younger.  I grew up near Birmingham and remember the IRA pub bombs.  I also clearly remember the Harrods bomb, the miners strikes and the Wapping riots, among many other awful things. Crap things happened back then too.
4.  Keep embracing technology.  It's happening whether you embrace it or not so dive in.  How we access music and films has changed but isn't that a good thing?  Gone are the days of only three channels to choose from, all of which end before midnight.
5. Yes, your body will begin to fall apart.  Slowly at first, but that's the nature of life.  Things will either ache, leak or sprout hairs unexpectedly.
6.  Your mindset is key.  I know folks who think they're old in their 60s and others who are partying well into their 80s.  Sir Chris Bonnington climbed the Old Man of Hoy on his 80th birthday and Helen Mirren is kicking ass at 73.  Keep your mind strong and your body has a fighting chance.
7. Your alcohol tolerance will drop.  This is not fair I know, but it's a fact.  Gone are the days when I could polish off a bottle of wine followed by a round or two of shots.  Thinking about it, this may be connected to why I can no longer hold my drink. After years of abuse my liver is revolting in every sense of the word.
8. Your interests will most likely change.  I now find I am less interested in who's number 1 in the charts and more interested in keeping slugs off my lettuces.  The 18 year old me would be mortified.
9. Your friends will change and you will change your friends.Thanks to social media you may find yourself back in touch with people you were at school with. Folks you wouldn't ordinarily have kept in touch with. In many cases this is a good thing but it occasionally throws up the odd character who idolises Nigel Farage and Katie Hopkins.  This is what the "unfriend" button is for.
10. Your priorities shift.  Racing up the career ladder becomes less of an issue for most and is replaced with cooking up plans to retire early.  Also your priorities for a good night out shift from "where are the cheapest drinks" to "where's the most convenient free parking"
11.  Repeat after me: Millennials are not all bad.  Yes, they may have a reputation for being "entitled narcissists" but, as Generation X-ers we were all labelled as "the MTV generation" and "workshy cynics" and we did OK didn't we?  Well, mostly...
20-something me
12.  You will generally be more relaxed about stuff and less stressed about "what that cow in accounts said about your fella".  We are generally better at picking our battles.  And winning them.
13. Your energy levels will drop.  When I think back to some of the crazy hours and stunts I pulled in my 20s I have a hard time believing I am the same person.  As age increases so afternoon naps become more appealing.
14. Grey hair.  It will come to most of us as we near the big 5-0.  According to the TV ads we should be ashamed of it and hide it at every opportunity.  It's not the colour that bothers me, it's the fact that mine stick out like demented pubes.  Smooth, sleek hair is definitely a thing of the past.
15. You are more prone to getting set in your ways. "Older people" have a reputation for not dealing well with change, we are more likely to cling to habits for no better reason than "we've always done it that way."  This is not a good thing.  Even I can embrace change - Friday night is Chippy Tea night but last week I had my chips on Thursday night instead.  Go me!
16. Younger men will make you feel like a dirty old woman.  When I heard Liam Hemsworth had married Mylie Cyrus I complained bitterly.  Then I realised I was old enough to be his mother.  Then I poured myself a drink and looked up the word 'Cougar'...
17.  The menopause.  I can't speak for men here but for women it's definitely an interesting time.  On the plus side there are no more period pains and associated monthly mood swings.  On the down side there are hot flushes and a bad moods that last for weeks and, occasionally, months at a time. Sadly, where chocolate and chick flicks may have worked in the past, now the chocolate just makes us fat leaving us to swear and curse at the skinny young girl in the film and wonder if we were ever that thin.
18. Be kind to yourself.  We live in a society that worships youth and that is not a good thing. Growing old is a privilege not a sin so accept your grey hairs, even if they do occasionally sprout from your chin.
19.  Learn new stuff.  In the past week someone said to me "I'm 56, I'm too old. I don't want any more education." How sad is that?  I honestly cannot imagine not wanting to keep learning.  I will never know it all, but that's not going to stop me trying.
20. Loo breaks.  Visiting the loo at least twice a night will now be a thing.  I've also started viewing toilets like petrol stations - don't go past one if you think you might need one as you never know where the next one will be.
21.  Fashions change but so does our own sense of style.  Personally I am long past trying to squeeze my ass into the latest skinny jeans and far happier wearing stuff that allows me to wolf down a huge plate of chips without feeling like I'm being sliced in two.
22.  You will have a lot of accumulated crap.  The fashion this year is to de-clutter but I like a bit of clutter.  A shell from a holiday on the north coast of Scotland, a plastic nose pencil sharpener won with my nephews on the 2p machines in Blackpool and a Moomin mug given to me by Steve which I refuse to use.  It's not clutter, it's memories.
23. Oddly I've found that my stamina has improved in some ways.  Where I used to race off like a puppy off the lead, now I'm more likely to pace myself and think about the entire journey rather than just the first 500 yards.
24. Some things will seem really old and hard to believe they happened within your lifetime.  Like Green Shield Stamps for example.  Or the Berlin Wall.  Or Professor Brian Cox being part of D-Ream...
25.  There will be a tendency to pop on the rosy tinted specs and remember long warm summers and 'proper' winters, but there were just as many wet grey days then as there are now but we remember the fun adventures we had outdoors with our mates, not the soggy days whinging in front of the tv.
26.  Hangovers hit harder and last longer.  There is no medical reason for this.  It is simply proof that god has a sick sense of humour or hates old people.  Or both.
Never too late to try new stuff
27.  You will feel the same inside.  I asked around my friends and most of us still feel "twenty something" in our minds.  I once interviewed a 96 year old Gwen Moffat and she said the same thing.  My brain still thinks I can do stuff that my body is no longer capable of.  Like eating a large greasy meal late at night and sleeping properly afterwards.  Not gonna happen.
28.  However old you are there are no "should be-s" as in "I should be dressing my age" or "By now I should be chairman of the board"  Life is what it is - just be glad you're alive to see it.
29.  It is NEVER too late to change your life or do something new.  Write a book, become and actor, take up painting.  Never, ever, EVER too late.  It's only too late when you're dead.
30.  You realise how fast time passes and how short life is but also...
31.  You realise how slow time passes and how long life is.  When you see a 20 year old rushing in to a huge life decision, all you can think is "you have your whole life ahead of you, there's no need to rush." but people probably told us that too when we were 20 and we probably didn't listen either.
32.  It's easier to become cynical.  We've seen boom and bust economies, watched governments rise and fall and fallen for far too many "easy family dinner" recipes that take 4 hours and demolish the kitchen.  Don't spoil the future by comparing it to the past.  Learn lessons, move on and give new ideas a chance.
33. Your body will begin emitting a new and exciting range of embarrassing noises when you least expect it.  Air will escape at inopportune moments and stomachs develop a mind of their own.  Should this occur in public I recommend staring in disgust at the person next to you.
34.  For each year you age the floor gets further away.  This is a scientific fact.
35.  We become less 'spur of the moment' and more 'are you sure you know where we can park?' This is not a good thing.  Go out one night without double checking the train times home.  Go on. I dare you.
36.  We generally become less dramatic.  When I see 20 somethings having a meltdown on social media or blowing things way out of proportion I generally smile and recall my own youthful meltdowns.  These days  I'm only likely to throw a hissy fit if Sainsbury's don't have my favourite Marmite flatbreads in stock and that, I think, is perfectly justified.
37.  The ticking clock becomes louder.  I don't mean we somehow develop horological superpowers, I mean we become more aware that our time is limited.  In our twenties we believe we can live for ever.  In our 50s we realise we can't.
"Must clench!"
38.  Your weight will go up because your metabolism will generally slow down.  Life is unfair like that.  Your 50 year old backside will be bigger than your 20 year old backside, but think of the fun you've had honing its perfect proportions.
39. Hair.  Some of it goes grey, some of it drops out, some of it grows in places it has never grown before.  Think of it as gods way of keeping us on our toes.
40.  Your memory, especially your short-term memory will decline.  You will forget what you walked into a room for, what you had for breakfast and the name of your first born.  You will also notice a tendency to repeat yourself.
41. We become more risk averse.  I noticed this when I went trampolining with my nephews,  In the past I would have hurled my self with wild abandon around the nets, now I'm more concerned with not weeing myself and scarring them for life.
42. You will tut more.  And roll your eyes.  And mutter "oh for god's sake".  I know you probably swore you'd never turn into an old fuddy duddy who sneers at the latest fashions but, seriously, what the HELL is going on with eyebrows these days?!
43.  You will most likely be more comfortable with yourself and less inclined to do things you don't want to simply to please others. Also known as "bugger off, I'm washing my hair and binge watching a boxed set of Frasier that night."
44. Your memory, especially your short-term memory will decline.  You will forget what you walked into a room for, what you had for breakfast and the name of your first born.  You will also notice a tendency to repeat yourself.
To hell with being a 'grown up'!
45.  It will become impossible to stand up, sit down or sip tea without making a noise or passing comment.
46.  You will begin to see toys from your childhood in a museum.  This is obviously cruel and there should be a law against it.  I remember seeing a Pippa doll in a museum.  To be fair it wasn't exactly like the one I had - mine had been modified by adding Action Man fatigues and a parachute.  But it still hurt.
47. The pop stars and movies stars you grew up with will have the bad manners to age at the same rate you do. Brad Pitt no longer looks like he did in Thelma and Louise and Simon le Bon is 60 now. 60! That just does not seem right.
48.  "Youngsters" i.e. anyone under 40, will be baffled by your references to the following things: cassette tapes, Texan bars, the TV show Magpie and why any young looking doctor is referred to as Dougie Howser
49.  You will never feel like a "proper adult", the kid in your head will keep telling you that everyone else is doing "adulting" better than you.  That voice is lying.
50.  You are never too old.  Growing old is a privilege denied to many. Life is precious and the possibilities are endless.  50 isn't old, 50 is only half way.  Quit finding excuses not to do stuff and start finding reasons to get stuck in.  We're only here once, we should make it count.

Saturday, 2 March 2019

Through the Arched Window

View from Virgin Train
I'm giving my age away a bit now, but I was always most excited by the arched window on Play School.  The journeys through the windows were always entertaining and educational, although I do recall lots of visits to milk bottling factories for some reason, and I'm sure we all learned loads.

These days windows are largely ignored.  I regularly take trains all over the country and most of the time folks have their faces in their phones while the landscape outside slips past unnoticed.  Travelling from A to B has become a chore to be done in the quickest time possible while the journey itself is simply an inconvenience.

View from train leaving Grange-over-Sands
Time really is money when it comes to travel; I recently took the train from Grange-over-Sands to Carlisle and was told it was cheaper for me to get a ticket which came back around the coast (which took much longer, covered more miles and, presumably therefore, required more driver's time and diesel) than it was for me to come back on the quick train via Lancaster.

I also regularly find myself working in offices with very little or no natural light, often buried deep in a basement and although I may find a day of that irritating, for me it's just a day, there are plenty of people who are working in those environments, disconnected from the outside, for 40 hours a week.  Of course sometimes I'm lucky enough to enjoy magnificent views, like this photo from a work project in Bahrain.  To be honest, now I think about it, maybe it is less distracting to be stuck in a basement...

Then there are the cheap hotels (of which I have stayed in many!) that will charge extra for a room with a window.  I recently booked a stay in an Easy Hotel which was £30 for a room without a window and £39.99 for a room with one.  I did wrestle with my conscience on that one because I splashed out for the window even though it was dark when I arrived so the curtains were drawn and the window was locked so it offered no means of escape in the event of a fire.  I find it hard to justify logically, I just needed a window to peek out of briefly the next morning.

And lets not forget cars which these days come with built in screens for the kids in the back to plug in, slap on the headphones and disappear into a virtual world of films or games.  When I was a kid we played all sorts of games on journeys (which were usually by bus as we didn't have a car) - counting cows, rearranging the number plates on cars to make new words or just generally looking at what was going on outside.  Whenever we took the bus from Birmingam to Coventry for a day out I always remember looking out for the archers in Meriden who were often out practising.  I also remember the excitement of watching the NEC being built - yes, I am indeed old!

But why on earth does all this matter?  I worry that people are becoming more and more disconnected from the outdoors when, even through an office window in the heart of the city, there are things to see - cloud formations, historical buildings or even a local tree or two to chart the passing of the seasons.  And I'm not knocking Virgin Trains onboard entertainment, but there are no films that can compete with a couple of hours of unadulterated British countryside.  Even Northern Rail, although their service is inexcusably abysmal, run trains through some of the most spectacular scenery in the British Isles.  The tickets may be overpriced but the views are free.

We're losing the art of gazing out of a window, we're forcing our minds to be active the entire time; playing apps, reading emails, catching up on spreadsheets and that's not good for our mental health or creativity. The greatest thinkers did just that, they thought.  The found time to let their minds drift and because of that great discoveries were made and fantastic works of art created.

In an attempt to fight back against the tide of screen staring I am declaring 19th March 2019, to be National "Look out of the Window Day" and would love you to join me by sharing photos through your window on social media using #ThroughMyWindow My plan is to try and flood social media with fantastic images and encourage more people to look out of the window and enjoy the view.

(Please note, I am encouraging you to look OUT of your own window not go peering into your neighbours windows taking photos!) 😀

To join in just share a photo on Twitter or Instagram add #ThroughMyWindow and tag me in @CumbrianRambler then we can all share and enjoy some wonderful scenery.  (You don't even have to wait until 19th March - we can start doing this today!)

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Sunday, 3 February 2019

The A-Z of starting a new life

The first Monday in February is popularly known as being the day most people throw a sickie.  Many of us have done it at some point in time - it's not that we're not sick, but we just don't feel up to it.  Ground down by work, life, family, finances and the relentless stream of bad news pouring in, who wouldn't want to spend a day hiding away from it all under a duvet?  Sometimes making a fresh start is exactly what you need; in January 2011 we upped sticks and moved 300 miles from our home in Southeast England to return to Steve's roots in South Cumbria so, now we're well settled into our new lives, here's a run down of the things we learned along the way.
A is for Ask. Before you start not only will you not know all the answers, you won't know many of the questions, so don't be afraid to ask, no matter how dumb it sounds.
B is for Be Bold. Starting a new life is scary, and there will be many occasions when you'll wonder if it's worth it, but just keep reminding yourself why you're doing it and you'll get there.
C is for Creativity. You always have more options than you think you do, so write down all the reasons you think you can't do it and challenge yourself to find answers.
D is for De-clutter. If your house is anything like ours then it's full of junk. Boxes of papers and bits and bobs put safely away "just in case". Well now's the time to get rid of them, unburden yourself at the recycling centre and the local charity store. New life, new habits!
E is for Evaluate: what's really important in your life. Money? Time to relax and do stuff? Family? Friends? Would those priorities shift if you knew you were on the clock? Well you are on the clock, so make sure you get them in the order that's right for you.
F is for Face the Facts. Often, as in our case, the initial impetus for the move isn't a good one, however the sooner you face up to the new challenge life has hurled at you the quicker you'll be able to turn it into a positive. Face the facts and find the information you need from financial advisers, estate agents and employers.
G is for Get Ahead. There will be a million and one things to do at the last moment so start early and tick off as many jobs as you can as quickly as you can - don't leave things till the last minute. 
H is for Harass People. This move might be the most important thing in your life but to the estate agents, financial advisers and mortgage companies you're just another account so, in the nicest possible way, be a thorn in their side. Please resist the urge to yell at them, this may be tough at times, but you'll get a lot further a lot more quickly if they're on your side and want to help you.
I is for Ignore the Naysayers! There will be plenty of them. People who don't have the nerve to do what you're doing, people who are jealous, and people who are genuinely concerned and don't know how else to tell you. We heard them all, and some of them could be quite persuasive, but we stuck to our guns and saw it through and now many of them have told us how they wish they had the nerve to do what we did. How many people have you heard say they'd love to start a new life? And how many have actually done it? I rest my case.
J is for Join Join online communities where you'll find loads of useful advice. Join social networks so you can more easily keep in touch with the friends and family you're leaving behind. When you arrive join clubs and societies to make new friends. Just take every opportunity to join things!
K is for Kit. Make sure you're well kitted out with all the tech you'll need. The first few weeks can be pretty lonely so you want to make sure you can remain in contact with everyone as easily as possible. It doesn't need to be expensive, older versions of smartphones or laptops will do everything you need at a fraction of the cost of their original sale price.
L is for Lose your cat! I'm not suggesting this is something you should do on purpose, but it happened to us during our first couple of weeks and it meant we got to know all our neighbours really quickly. Luckily he came home again a couple of weeks later, but it certainly broke the ice with people!
M is for Make time to Relax. This is one of the most stressful things you'll do, so don't be too hard on yourself. Pace yourself and take time to "not do moving stuff". Watch a movie, read a book, take a walk, anything to take your mind off things for an hour or two.
N is for Network. You know more people than you think you do, and you'll need most of them. Don't try to do this alone, talk to people, be honest about the highs and lows, you'll be amazed how many will have been through something similar and have some invaluable gems of advice.
O is for OMG we did it! Celebrate your achievements along the way. Getting the mortgage deal, finding the perfect house, figuring out where to store your stuff, locating the nearest cattery. There will be plenty of things that will go wrong and drive you to distraction, so make sure you celebrate all the good stuff.
P is for Prepare your Paperwork. A new life comes with lots of paperwork. I'm not a paperwork person so this was a tough one for me, but there will be a mountain of paperwork so set up a system and make sure you keep it all organised. You'll be juggling official documents from estate agents, removal firms, insurance companies, mortgage companies, utilities companies, local councils etc. etc. etc. For a couple of quid you can get an expanding wallet file from the stationery store which should see you through.
Q is for Question your sanity! 'm not saying you should do this, I'm saying you will do this, so better be prepared for it. My best advice is to refer back to M and do something different to take your mind of things for a while.
R is for Reconnaissance. In this digital age you can find out everything you need to know virtually. Before we moved I'd checked out all the local bus and train times, located the nearest doctors, tracked down all the supermarkets within a 10 mile radius and even virtually walked the route from my new home to the local railway station. Many towns and villages now have their own websites so you can really get a feel for the place before you move there.
S is for Smile. Cheesy, but the quickest and easiest way to start making new friends. Chat to people, pass the time of day, ask questions, read notice boards, take an interest, but most of all, do it with a smile.
T is for Try something new and exciting. This is all about doing something new and exciting so try to embrace all the set backs as challenges to be overcome not barriers to success. So much went wrong for us along the way and we spent the first three months of our new life living in a small camper van whilst we sorted out the house situation, but we had fun and learned new things every day. Of course there were times when we felt utterly despondent and tempted to give up and that's OK occasionally, it's just not a good idea to make a habit of it.
U is for the Unexpected. You may be the most meticulous planner in the world, but I guarantee that at some point during a move like this, several things will ambush you that you'd never even considered. During our first week the clutch went on the car, we had no idea where the local garages were and didn't really know many people to ask, but we figured it out. Just keep on your toes and expect the unexpected.
V is for Vital bits and pieces. I found it really useful to keep a small stash of vital, personal bits and pieces around me at all times. Photos, a few keepsakes even, I'm not ashamed to admit, my teddy bear. When you're thrusting yourself headlong into the unfamiliar a few familiar things can be a real help to hang on to.
W is for Wine. Or whatever your favourite tipple is, even if it's non-alcoholic. Whenever I felt like going into meltdown a large glass of red and a bit of a giggle popped me back on the straight and narrow.
X is for Xenophobia. Xenophobia is a fear of strangers or foreigners and there's no room for it in a move like this. Seek out all the strangers you can and start to build new friendships, the sooner you manage that the sooner you'll start to feel part of the community.
Y is for Yet another setback. Despite how lovely they always make it look on the TV, starting a new life will be fraught with difficulties but you will be able to overcome them. As they saying goes "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger", so learn from the setbacks. When they happen don't be afraid to ask for help or support, most people will be only too happy to lend a hand.
Z is for Zeal! Approach your new life with a generous helping of zeal and any setbacks you face will soon be a thing of the past. I lost count of the number of things people told me couldn't be done, we couldn't live in a motorhome for 3 months, we couldn't push a house purchase through in 4 weeks, we'd never find employment in the current job market and so on. Just dig deep, find your energy and focus it all on the task in hand and you'll be happily settled in your new life before you know it.

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Sunday, 20 January 2019

Relentless Optimism

I've had a lot of blog ideas colliding in my head over the past few weeks but haven't been able to pin down anything concrete, so apologies if this one strays.  Things haven't been helped by me being in a bit of a fug since mid December - lots of causes that I won't bore you with but suffice to say I temporarily misplaced my usual chirpy demeanour.

The more I pondered the more I realised that all the ideas were actually related.  I wanted to write about Health -v- Wealth and how we are continually encouraged to trade a desire for bigger, better and shinier things by working longer hours which we ultimately pay for with our health.

I also wanted to write a blog called "I wore pink today" about how easily we miss the signs that someone around us is depressed, or struggling, because we're so wrapped up with our own struggles and challenges.  We miss the fact that someone who normally wears bright and cheerful colours is suddenly wearing a lot of grey and black.  Of course it might be nothing more than a new fashion trend (or the only clean thing in the wardrobe!) but we so rarely ask to check.

I also wanted to write something about the health benefits of being outdoors; not just on our mental health but on our overall wellbeing.  The benefits of removing our faces from a phone screen and sucking in great lungfuls of fresh air.  Our electronic devices are purveyors of doom and inadequacy.  There's a saying in journalism: "If it bleeds, it leads".  Bad news sells so in many ways we've only ourselves to blame.  Even negative comments by "trolls" attract more attention than positive "yeah that's amazing" posts and we all have that one friend who only ever comments to pick out the flaws in something we just shared...

Right now things look bleak.  January is never a good month - we're all broke after Christmas, the nights are long and dark and for some insane reason people insist on making it even tougher by giving up alcohol, going vegan or forcing themselves to go to the gym when they really don't want to.  The news isn't helping with Brexit dividing families, Trump trying to literally divide the American continent and a bunch of people getting upset because Gillette are suggesting that bullying kids and harassing women isn't how men should behave.

On top of all that I'm bombarded with adverts telling me that getting old is a bad thing and that somehow I can reverse the ageing process by buying some ludicrously expensive gloop to smear on my face.  I'm no Brian Cox but I'm pretty sure it will take a serious deviation from the laws of physics to stop me getting older.  Ageing is a fact of life.  It's a fact of the universe - but we live in a culture that celebrates and values youth and beauty.  Well, b******s to that! 

I once did a personality assessment which told me that it is my "relentless optimism" which most annoys other people so I have chosen to take that as a compliment and not only build on it, but channel it right into the heart of everything Cumbrian Rambler does.  The world is NOT full of misery but it is so easy to miss the good stuff, or overlook the small joys in everyday living and find faults instead of fun. So, here it is.  In a world where s**t happens every single day this is my remedy for 2019; I will find the fun in everything I can and continue my relentless optimism to the end - who's with me?